Losing Hope in Dating? Matchmaker Advice on How to Keep the Faith

We hear a lot about the power of faith and how it can contribute to success in our lives, but what exactly is it? How can you harness it yourself? And how does it relate to your love life?

Faith, by definition, requires confidence and/or trust coupled with a belief that an outcome will occur in your favor. Believe it or not, faith pops up in most areas of daily life. There are some things we instinctively have faith in, like gravity! But when it comes to relationships, let’s discuss how faith is involved.

Of course, faith plays a large role in religious and spiritual beliefs. However, this confidence or ‘knowing’ can stand on its own. You don’t have to believe in God or a higher power to have faith in your ability to find love and take the steps necessary to move closer to the partnership you want. In fact, faith can help move you toward accomplishing that goal faster. 

Below, we’ve listed out just nine of the many ways having faith in dating can help support your journey toward finding ever-lasting love. 

1. FAITH FUELS INTENTION

Faith fuels the intention to set a goal and acts as the glue to connect your action to completing that goal. If your goal is to establish a loving relationship, your intent involves what that relationship means to you and helps you define what characteristics and situations support it. 

When you focus on dating with intention, suddenly, the dating world doesn’t seem so complicated. You determine what you want and then cancel out the noise that doesn’t resonate with your goals. Your intentions, paired with faith, solidifies the action to move forward.  

2. FAITH BRINGS YOU CLOSER TO YOURSELF

If you’re losing faith in dating, it might be worth taking a step back and focusing on yourself for a bit rather than focusing on a partner. Who are you? And what do you want out of life and a relationship? If you’re unsure of yourself, you’re going to have a much harder time attracting the kind of person that fulfills you when you’re not even sure what that fulfillment looks like in the first place.

And that’s where faith in yourself comes into play. Faith in yourself is confidence—knowing what you need to grow, thrive, and succeed. It’s knowing who you are and what you want, and these things frame the search leading to love.

Seek the answers to these questions, and believe in what you find. Do some reflection, journal, and maybe even meditate. Once you have a clearer picture, dating with intention will come more naturally.

3. FAITH HELPS YOU GROW

Let’s face it; many of us carry issues from past relationships into current efforts to find love. Those “leftovers” get in the way! The constructive lessons learned from past relationships can be difficult to implement, especially when we cling to the destructive ones.

When you have faith in love, it helps you pick up the worthwhile lessons and move forward without fear or resentment from the past. There has to be room to let someone new into your life without anger or pain. Every experience provides valuable tools to bring along on new journeys in love—use those and discard the rest. 

The best way to utilize faith is to create a fresh space in your heart that hasn’t yet been occupied.

4. FAITH GIVES YOU COURAGE

Dating isn’t always a walk in the park. It can be awkward, uncomfortable, and downright intimidating at times. The process of dating takes time, opportunity, fortitude, and a whole lot of courage. 

Whether you’re trying to convince yourself to ask someone out on a date or facing rejection on a dating app, you need the courage to get through the highs and lows of the dating world. Courage helps you be brave, but it also helps you be vulnerable. And while the journey is not always an easy one, faith reminds us why we are making the effort in the first place. Faith says, “This is tough, but I’m tougher.” With faith on your side, you have the tools to succeed. 

5. FAITH ALLOWS YOU TO APPRECIATE LOVE

When you have confidence in something, you don’t take it for granted. You enjoy unwavering trust with ever-expanding appreciation. Whether you are on the sidelines contemplating ways to find love or ready to take the next step in a relationship, have faith that no matter the outcome you will be triumphant. This mindset nurtures greater appreciation for the love you have, cherishing what has been brought into your life—for as long as it is there.

6. FAITH SUPPORTS GRATITUDE

Faith gives you the space to appreciate what you already have in life. While you might feel like you’re losing hope in dating, your love life is only one facet of the big picture. You have so many other beautiful things in your life right now. For you, that might mean you have a close network of friends who support you and love you unconditionally. For someone else, that might mean having a fulfilling job that they’re passionate about. 

There are so many wonderful aspects of your life, and having faith reminds you to be thankful for those moments and cherish what you already have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have just yet. 

7. FAITH REMINDS YOU OF THE LOVING CONNECTIONS IN YOUR LIFE

If you have faith in love, then you have faith in all the meaningful connections you have in your life—not just those who you are dating. Even if you’re single right now, you are surrounded by loving people, from your coworkers and neighbors to your friends and relatives. This understanding and appreciation for the love in your life is what will help fuel your search for a partner. 

8. FAITH ENCOURAGES TRUST

To have hope in dating, you must trust the process and yourself. If you’re constantly second-guessing yourself and questioning the outcome, then you may continue to struggle to find peace associated with finding love. When you restore your faith, you will have an unwavering knowing that you will succeed in your search for love. 

9. FAITH TELLS YOU TO STOP FRETTING ABOUT TIME

Whether you’re worried about your age or your biological clock, faith encourages you to fear not. There’s no rush, and there’s certainly no prize for racing to the finish line. As you know, good things take time, and that includes finding someone who is the perfect match for you. Putting pressure on yourself or stressing over your age isn’t going to speed things up for you. In fact, they’re only to make you agonize more. Instead, have faith in love and remain confident that your time will come.